This past year I have seen way too many marriages explode before my eyes. I got to say each time I was shocked. Each time it caught me off guard. Each time I thought the couples were solid and there was not a thought in my mind that their marriage was in trouble.
This post today probably isn’t for those marriages that are already smoke and ashes, but maybe it will help another marriage that is beginning to smolder. And it’s also not really for the women, but aimed more toward the men. I am not so naive as to think that there are not two sides to every story. I’m sure that every situation is different and inevitably there is probably plenty of blame to go around on both sides. But, since I’m a man, I feel like I can speak to men. I’m not letting the ladies off the hook, but rather I’m speaking from what I know.
And what I know is that we need to “Man Up”! It’s time for men to start acting like men. A real man doesn’t run when things get tough. A real man recognizes that a 3 strand cord isn’t easily broken (Eccl 4:12). Let me put that in plain english, if you’re a real man then you make sure that God is part of your marriage. If we are going to man up then we better recognize that the grass is NOT greener on the other side of the fence. We had better recognize that temptation is going to come and that is when we need to overcome. Guys if you are reading this and that women who is not your wife is pressing on you to get your attention…run away! Seriously if I hear some story about a guy who is leaving his wife because he has found his “soulmate”…I’m gonna puke. Man up and recognize that if that woman cared anything about you then she would recognize the sanctity of your marriage.
It’s time for us to man up and recognize what real love is all about. Go read 1 Corinthians 13 if you haven’t read it lately. Those words are challenging me. I think these verses are a great test to see if what you are doing is showing love to your wife. Does your activity on the internet, or your conversations with the opposite sex at work, or what you are watching on TV…do any of these things line up with these verses? Does the way that we talk to our wife or about our wife…does it line up with these verses? Let’s man up! Show love at all times. Be an example for other men to follow.
